“How did you see her?” said my Dad who was visiting at the time.
“I didn’t! I heard her yell, ‘Mommy’” I replied.
“But everyone calls you Mommy. Even people we don’t know call you that around here,” Dad questioned.
“Yea, but I know when it’s mine.” I explained matter of factly..
And then I thought about what I had said and tears began to well. How incredible, what God has done for me. For us. It is true, hundreds of people in this area call me Mommy. Even people who I have not met before recognize me as the woman who cares for the children in this area and call me Mommy before even having made my acquaintance. On any given day, I can drive down the road between my home and Buziika and if it is the right time, when kids are heading home from school, I will hear “Mommy! Mommy!” being shouted about every two seconds as I pass all the children on the road. I smile, as I hear them yell, Mommy.
But for 14 “Mommy”s, I stop. I can hear the difference. I know.
My family is all things unconventional. But it is real. Real because God has knit our hearts together in a way that only He can and real because no matter what anyone says or thinks, I am their Mommy, and they are mine.
Three years ago a doe eyed 5 years old looked at me and asked, “Can I call you Mommy?” And life changed forever.
I wrote then:
She called me, “Mommy.”
My heart swelled up into my throat. I have only known these little people 4 weeks and I feel a love for them that is different than my love for anyone else. This is love that wants to protect, and comfort and take away all pain. Thisis a love that consumes my every move. She called me, “Mommy.”
Could it be that the God of the universe would choose little inadequate me to be the mother of these three beauties? Yes. Dear blog world, I am officially a mother.
Sometimes God gives me these assignments, and I wonder if He knows what He is doing. Shouldn't He choose someone older, or at least wiser? Someone smarter or more patient or.. something. But I offer all that I have to the greatness of His plan.
Our God is a God of miracles. About an hour ago, my oldest daughter was discharged from the hospital with the diagnosis of a broken collarbone and some soft tissue damage. Of all things that could have happened to her (she was under a brick wall for goodness sake!) she has only these injuries, both of which will heal just fine with sometime and care. Tonight she will spend her first night with her sisters at my house. Unfortunately, my bed was crammed enough last night with only myself and two of my girls in it, there is no way all three of us will fit in there. So they will sleep in their very own room across the hall.
Today after church we went out to lunch and Scovia andMary tasted ice cream for the first time. The faces they made were priceless; I guess they didn’t expect it to be so cold. They also discovered the joy of the bathtub a few days ago, and I think they have taken about twenty baths since they havemoved in.
Maybe I will never sleep past 7:00 in the morning and maybe I will never have time to brush my hair and maybe I will never be able to eat a full meal without getting up anddown a million times. It’s worth it. Maybe it will always take me twice as long to do everything and maybe I will never have a really clean house and maybe my days of staying out late with friends are over. It’s worth it. Anything I have togive up is worth just that one minute when they look at me and call me, “Mom,” when those little hands grab mine and those big eyes look at me as if I hold the keys to the world. It’s worth it.
Because I have finally fulfilled the stipulation of the law that a foster parent live with their children for 3 years before they are granted an adoption order, and because I have finally finished writing the book which will allow me to pay for these adoptions, we have filed our court paperwork and are waiting on a date. So soon, we will all be related on paper! I will no longer be their ‘foster mother’ or their ‘legal guardian’ but their on-paper, real-deal, adoptive MOM! Legally, this means very little is different, and to my heart it means nothing, I have already been their mom there for ages. Still, it feels like a milestone and I wanted to share so that you could praise God with me.
I don’t have many words. I look at my life, at how far we have come since that first morning when Scovia called me Mommy, I look at my daughters, and I AM THANKFUL.

109 comments:
Praising the Lord with you! How great and mighty are His ways.
Amen to ALL of that:)
Beautiful post, Katie! Congratulations on such a big step in adopting your beautiful daughters!
Beautiful post. Congrats. Brushed hair is overrated anyways. :)
Charisa
Beautiful post!
Katie, I am praising God with you! I've been reading Isaiah 49:18-21 and sensing how God has, is and will fulfill it in my life. I am single with no biological children, but He has given me dear ones to nuture and I think there is more to come as the days unfold. May God continue to bless your home & fill it with His presence! May His joy be your strength. Please give your daughters a hug for me.
You would never know how much you inspire me, who has never met you. And, yes! We are adopting from Ethiopia and I can't wait to meet her!! :)
Katie, OH MY GOODNESS...Be still my heart!! I hope you feel my prayers (along with thousands of others). I can't imagine how proud YOUR mommy and daddy are of YOU. :) And I sure know that your Heavenly Daddy is proud, too. I am grateful today for your happiness and your daughters' happinesses, too.
Thank you for following His lead and for sharing your life with us. You are an absolutely stunningly beautiful family. The lucky man who joins you be blessed beyond measure. :)
Hugs & Prayers,
AmberK
my heart swells. i am rejoicing with you and your girls! you have taught me, a 40 year old with 4 children, what family means.
Love your blog. It reaches deep into my soul. Thanks for sharing... and thanks for giving of yourself. You are an amazing representation of Jesus.
Hugs, Karen
A precious "baker's dozen" ~ My heart swelled with joy as I looked at that most recent photo ~ can only imagine God's smiling heart upon each one of you.
You are an amazing "Mommy". God Bless you all. <3
So beautifully and eloquently expressed... such is the heart of an adoptive mom. Yup, we're on that journey too, it is worth everything we're going through.
Thanks! This week God chose to place 2 unrelated boys into our family... taking us from 3 under 5 to 5 under 5. I know people will think I am nuts, but I feel such peace and the presence of God my husband and I both said, "You know, I am not even sure we need to pray about this, it is clear beyond clear what God would have us do." We've been reading Colossians and many verses talk about how Christians can display God's glory, we have no glory of our own with out God shining through us and we believe that God most shines through when we are made thin and transparent. Thanks for being that!
Praising God with you!
Praise God!
What book did you write?
God bless!
God bless you and your beautiful family! Adoption is a beautiful thing. I am so grateful He adopted me, and opened my heart to adopt a beautiful little girl from Ethiopia who happens to be HIV+. He has used your story to change the way I see. I know that my daughter will save my life as much as we are saving hers! Thank you
Love it! I was thinking the other day at church when another toddler was crying"oh wait, that's not mine". I am so glad that when I cry my God knows me and calls me his child.
how i love u and ur little ones! do u have any information on when the book will come out? i cannot wait to get my hands on one!!
fyi: my husband and i have been talking off and on about adoption (we are both capable of having kids) -- i just feel like this is what we are to do -- adopt -- this is the 2nd blog i have read TODAY saying how you should consider adoption -- is it a sign?!?! :)
Beautiful post. Love the "family" pics too! Blessings to you and to the journey that God has taken you on.
Oh Katie!
I love your story and can't wait till someday I can hear a little one call me "Mommy". You make me challange myself more, and want to be more like you. I loved meeting your sweet daughters..I can only dream about the day when I move to Uganda!
<3 17 months!
yes. You are right. Its simply heaven on earth......
Would love to be updated regularly about Jane. I am sure you keep in contact somehow.
I pray for her.
Congratulations! That is so beautiful! I am proud of you and encouraged as I start my journey in American foster care. I should be licensed within two weeks and often feel inadequate, but excited and anticipating what God has in store for my family as a single mom of 2 bio, 1 internationally adopted, and soon to be foster kids.
Hey Katie !! I have read your blog from beginning until now over the past few months. I live in Jackson,TN and am active with the Union Lady Bulldogs basketball team.
Your story and more than that your heart have been life altering for me.
You have truly challenged my "comfort" and "perspective" about life. Thank you for that :)
I decided to comment on this post as I am a HUGE believer in adoption. Have you read a book called "Adopted for Life". I will send you a copy if you haven't !!
I am so excited for you and these precious kids.I'm also grateful for the example you are setting.
I would love to hear from you if you'd like to email me at abeth420@hotmail.com
Know that you are prayed for and you are making a difference in SO many lives. And that's not including your children :)
Tears as always! :) What a great mommy you are!
I have been reading this blog off and on for a while and I don't think I have left a comment. But I have to tell you that each time I come here, my eyes fill with tears and my heart swells with joy. Just reading your story and hearing about your children is so uplifting. It is beautiful! You ARE their "mommy". That is love like none other.
I *LOVE* your family!!! You are all so very precious.
We have adopted, and would love to adopt again, if it were not so expensive. My heart aches for more children.
Oh happy day, congratualations to you all!
Your story inspires me every time I read your blog. My goal in life is to be like you when I grow up. Thank you for what you are doing in these girls lives....you really are making a difference in many peoples lives, not just theirs.~Bailey B.
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I bless the Lord with all my heart for your precious life Katie. What you do inspires me to become a mom, May the Lord bless you and your beautiful daughters!
Praising our King! To God be the glory! What a beautiful family!!!
Katie - you don't know me, but I keep up with your blog. I've also shown your pictures and told your story to my group of 3-6th grade girls at church. So there are now 25 8-11 yrs olds praying for you and your family. Have a great day (or night as it probably is there).
Yay! Having it "on paper" is wonderful! P.S. Your blog and your ministry is what spurred my husband and I to adopt (September 16, 2009 to be exact). And we were matched with our beautiful baby girl on December 22, 2010. We travel to Ethiopia for our first court date on March 17th! Thanks for sharing your story and for your obedience to God!
Beautiful Post! I am a Mommy to 6 month old twin boys. I can't wait for them to call me "Mommy". Feel very led to adopt in the future also. I visited Uganda in July 2007 and absolutely adored the place and the people. I am desperate to get back there. They have a passion for Jesus that is indescribable. God Bless you Katie, you are an inspiration to me.
love your heart and pray for your girls to be used in a mighty way. i pray that your hands will be strong, loving and protection to those precious lives. your words stir something so deep inside me. press on sister...you are a living example of Jesus.
Your posts bless my heart, yet convict me at the same time. I am so thankful that God has placed you with your girls, that He knit you all together, and that you share with us.
Thanks for sharing, Katie!
James 1:27
Loving the news you have shared with us here today. Praising Elohim right along with you. Blessings to you and your family. Beautiful Pictures. Hugs from Ohio
When I read this, I could not stop crying. My wife and I, now retired from the military, would pick up children (usually young adults!) wherever we were stationed. Over the past couple of months we've picked up a young lady (she just turned 17) who is my daughter!! And your words said exactly how I feel.
How awesome the God of the Universe is, our awesome might God who adds to our families - and adds us to others - that his love would continue to be known in our "children" and continue to go forth in the world.
Crying with joy! Thank you Jesus!
Where's this book? I want one!
Amen to that, and thank you for the challenge at the end. Love you girl.
Carolee
God Bless you for all that you have done and continue to do. You have inspired me so much... if only we all were half as willing to serve as you are. Thank you.
What a beautiful post, Katie! Such an exciting milestone - we are praising our Father with you!!
The thing that struck me about this post was how similar the experience of motherhood really is. I'm not an adoptive mom but I'll tell you that I feel exactly the same way. Leaving the hospital, I wanted to yell out "Are you sure you should be trusting me with this baby?!?" I felt SO unprepared even after trying so hard to be prepared.
It does seem like a hot meal and a shirt with no snot trails would be just about glorious but I wouldn't trade this life for anything.
My sweet sister in Christ...
Katie, your wisdom speaks to my heart in a most comforting way! I thank God for you and what you do and for your willingness to share it a world away. It makes a difference!!!
oh, my!! it's really amazing the things God can do! You are so young and so ready to commit to 14 little girls. People a lot older than you and can't commit to one person, much less to 14 girls. To Jesus be the praise! And enjoy your little ones... what an adventurous and full life you have. I know you wouldn't have any other way. :) Blessings and blessings. :)
What an amazing milestone at which to have arrived! I am so happy for you!
Blessings,
~ Ellie
So absolutely wonderful. Praise God!
You made me tear up, as usual - beautiful. I have on little las, through the miracle of adoption and just got my referral for a 4 month old angel, also from Ethiopia. But 14?? Dear God- BLESS YOU GIRL!!!!
SOOOOOO happy for you and your daughters!!!!!
Your sister in Christ
Hosanna
You and your children are SO beautiful. I am feeling called to adopt from Ethiopia or Burkina Faso but I am waiting for God to provide the finances to get started. I love reading about your journey, you provide so much inspiration!
I feel like all of the others. Your God and mine has reached down to you and me in an incredible way. He used your words to bring me back to Him at a horrible time of wandering and to then see the truer meaning of adoption. Our family of 3 has been waiting almost 1 year and hope to meet our little Rwandan baby soon! Blessings and gratitude for your faithfulness! From one changed life that may be a part of changing others!
Rejoicing with you today Katie. God is using you in incredible ways! I have passed your blog info to many other twenty-somethings so we can all remember, even in our lack of "experience" God will use us in mighty ways!
katie -- i continue to follow and you continue to inspire and amaze me -- what an incredible soul you are... i would love to know what your parents did in raising you -- as a parent i want to find ways to instill your values in our son... you are remarkable....
God bless those beautiful girls and their amazing mommy
Your daughters look so happy! What a beautiful family God has put together!!!
Crying tears of joy at the way God has proven His faithfulness and PERFECT plans through you and your daughters! Thank you for allowing us to celebrate with you.
Katie - we are heading to Uganda. Our daugher is there. It's been a LONG journey wandering but we know now. We're coming. Pretty soon I am going to find you, dear sister, and hug your neck in person.
Congratulations and so very thankful for each of you!
congratulations on the "official" adoption. you are a wonderful mommy and an inspiration to so many. bless you and all your sweet, sweet girls!! there is no love like a parent's love. =)
this is beautiful. you inspire me so much!! may you be blessed more and more
I am in awe of you and your family! Congratulations on reaching such a huge milestone with your children.
Congrats on the milestone! Love hearing about your family! What a beautiful story and such a blessing you to them and them to you:) Being Mommy is as lovely as you shared and although I have little ones already my heart aches to adopt and so one day... May the Lord Jesus continue to bless you richly in heart and strength.
Beautiful.
Beautiful post! So grateful for the Lord's Spirit in you and your obedience and joy in all that He has called you to. I am in NC, USA and have been reading your blog for a few months now.
God always knows whom to choose! Bless you, always kiddo!
God always knows whom to choose! Bless you always, kiddo!
HOW GREAT IS OUR GOD?!
Thank you for sharing your family with us - you have taught me so so much. God bless you all on this journey!
I needed your words today. My circumstances are quite different but they do include adoption stories. Thank you so much for all you do for your family and so many others, in the name of our Lord.
You are a truely amazing young woman, I am greatful that OUR GOD is so awesome he lead you to your life and those beautiful children who had no one but now have a mommy and a heavenly Father!!
Thanks for reminding me that it is all worth it...
Congratulations!
So beautiful...keep sharing about adoption...you are beautiful.
We have 4 children through the miracle of adoption. Each of them has such an amazing "Only God" story from extreme speed, to looking eerily like us. The in country coordinator caught her breathe the first time she saw me- my dd and I look so much alike. To being everything we said we wouldn't do and God stepped in and said "oh yes you will! We are so blessed.
Been waiting and praying for this announcement for a long time. Congratulations on all of your big steps (finishing your book, filing paperwork and shouting from the virtual rooftops about your precious girls).
A fellow adoptive Mama.
You are a light in a dark world. Keep the faith. I don't know you personally, but I know we will meet someday, either in heaven or here on earth. I am a mom of 3 as well, praying for you from California. Blessings--dianne :)
My adoption of two children was finalized just three months ago.
Nothing changed really.
Yet everything changed.
"It's just a piece of paper..." they say (re: marriage, or whatever legal thing)-- it's SO much more.
Congratulations dear!
Praise God!! Can't wait to read your book! When will it be published?
Hi Katie
I'm another Katie from England who is inspired and encouraged by your blog, your work and all that you have achieved, I think you're amazing. You've shown to all your readers what you gain through faith and trust. I look forward to your book, and congratualtions on your family the happiness bounces off the photos!
Katie in Liverpool
What a testimony to His Goodness...Thanking Him with you, dear Katie! LOVE you and all your sweet girls! This IS a milestone, it is an EBENEZER...a day to stop and be grateful to our Father, who put this family together before time began! Hugs and kisses to you all!!
Renee
Katie,
You and I have never met, but I discovered your blog awhile back and have followed it ever since. I am awarding you the "Stylish Blogger Award!" Congrats! To find out what the next step is, you'll need to check the award on my blog. I know you are busy and do not expect you follow through on the award. But I wanted to list you anyway. God bless! Mindy
www.fullofloveandlife.blogspot.com/
Your blog posts are always so inspiring! God bless you for your work as the Mommy to all those dear girls. Praying for you!
Congratulations Katie! You are an incredible diligent, faithful, humble woman! Beautiful words about a beautiful family. Thanks for sharing as always;)
Praising Jesus with you!
Is it just the first 3 girls that you are able to adopt at this time? (I've always wondered what the legal process was for you to "officially" be their mommy, even though I never wondered IF you were their mommy.)
Please ... tell us more about this book. So exciting!
Hope your week is BLESSED!
Laurel
So beautiful! Thank you for sharing your heart!
How excitng for you! Amazing amazing.
This post even made me tear up and I'm only a college student! Your story becomes more inspiring by every post you make. I have such a passion for missions and working with children and I couldn't stop smiling when I read your story about hearing YOUR child yell out "Mommy".
Beautiful! Congratulations!!!!
"Some say blood is thicker than water. I say LOVE is thicker than blood." From one adoptive mommy to another...congratulations. Praying for your beautiful family!
Really love all the posts you offer! I am so looking forward to seeing more like them…..
Thanks
I have spent the last few days reading ALL your blog posts. AMAZING! God has used your life to stir something in my heart. Your mission reaches way past what you can see! Thank you for your example.
Kadie (in Chicago)
You are such an inspiration. What a blessing you have!!!! And what you said about 'Mommy' and what it feels like to know is just such a wonderful thing!! We're just getting started with a new outreach program at out church to help with kids in the foster care system and ones who are ready to be adopted. It's focused on the need right here in Montgomery County, TX for now. But I still can't help but be inspired by you and your story and the life you lead. God has a powerful and awesome friend in you and your girls! Thank you for sharing your life with us. Hugs hugs to all of you!!!
So sweet! Thank you!
Taking in the widows and orphans! Ya got to love um!!!
To God be the glory!
To you, congratulations!
Katie, you and your ministry move me to tears and open my heart to the possibilities of the future. I will pray for your family often. Thank you for "recommendation."
Katie, my heart and my eyes both filled up at your words! Congratulations! Our call to adopt a hurting child was the best thing so far that Jesus has done in OUR lives, after clothing us with His righteousness. May you all be blessed beyond your most wonderful imaginings. Barb
Beautiful family! :-) And congrats on finishing your book!!
Congratulations, Katie!
We were legal guardians of our daughter, even once in America, because of the way India grants international adoption. She was ours. She was my daughter. Nothing in my heart was different the day the US court made it official, but it sure felt wonderful to have paperwork officially behind us and to have the world recognize what we knew even before we held her in our very own arms! Celebrate the little steps- our God is the God of the Little and the Big.
Can't wait to get your book. You have no idea how your blog has changed our family's life!
Beautiful post. Adoption is such an amazing example of how God loves us and adopts us into His family. Your love for your daughters is the love of Chirst. You are an amazing mother and an amazing family!
God bless you and your daughters!
Love,
The Jones Family
Katie,
I just want you to know that I love reading your blog. Mostly because when you speak of Jinja and Bukaya and the red dirt that covers every inch of you ALL the time...I know it! I am planning my 3rd trip to Uganda soon, and cannot wait to get back there and get busy serving the Lord and his beautiful people. Uganda is so infectious...it gets a hold of you and you can't get it out of your mind or your heart! The exteme poverty and desperation is strangely overshadowed by a joy that is so unspeakable and a FAITH that heals bodies, casts out demons, and feeds the masses. It completely changes your perspectve on life and faith and well...everything really. I love it more and more every day, and I am praying in faith what my response to this overwhelming love for another country so far away may mean for the future...it scares me, but it also scares me not to think about being there, too. If that makes any sense at all...
I pray for you every day, and would love to meet you the next time I am in Jinja. I have emailed Gwen with some information-we work with Arise Africa, Intl. Hoping to get there sometime in March.
Love in Jesus,
Ashley
God is so good. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. My roommate and I are single girls going through the licensing process to be foster parents. Whenever I feel overwhelmed by the paperwork, the laws, or even the thought of being just a temporary mom, I think of you. I think of your faithfulness to follow and your willingness to be open to what God is doing in your life. Congratulations Mom!
That made me cry (in a joyous way). What an immense blessing.
Oh, Girl, what a BEAUTIFUL FAMILY you have! I see REAL smiles and REAL JOY in those smiles and in those faces I see the face of Jesus reflected. I can't properly express how reading your post and seeing the photos moved my heart (and me, to tears). Bless you, bless you, bless you!
How wonderful!
How?...That is the question that is ringing in my head. HOW did you do it. HOW did you get past your parents and HOW did you get past people saying "don't you think you should be married first?" I guess I am wrong for wanting to be in your shoes. Not in place of you but...even for wanting the SAME shoes I guess. God puts us all in different places in His on way, in His own timing. We don't get to choose...but we do get to choose to be patient and trust. So easily said...certainly not easily done. Not for me anyway. I remember one night I nearly cried myself to sleep because I felt like there should be a precious little African baby all snuggled up next to me in bed. I wanted it so badly. I don't believe it will ever happend without me being married. Of course all things are possible...it just doesn't seem realistic in my life and circumstances. I know God is waiting for me to be faithful in the tiny things He has asked me to do that I still daily fail at. I believe He is also waiting for me to give up. By that I mean give in to Him, give up to myself. He is waiting for me to wait on Him...
I love you! How many will you be allowed to adopt, just the first three or more than that? We have much the same heart, though thousands of miles away. My son, adopted, called me mama on Christmas Eve this year and it was the greatest gift. There is nothing like it and it makes EVER early morning, pukey floor, poopy diaper, crying fit, deep night snuggle, meal cooked, toy picked up for the 8,000th time...Worth it!!!!
excited for you and oloking forward to your book!
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